Why is this? Why is it that in almost all of the work environments I’ve been bosses like me and few coworkers do?
1. Because I suck up to bosses?
2. Because I do the job so well that other coworkers feel threatened? (ha! This would make a fine excuse, like the answers celebrities give to interviews: “And what do you consider your worst quality?” “Well, my honesty and perfectionism will be my downfall”.)
3. Because I am a cold person who does not talk to other people in the office much when they talk about the reality shows they like and what they had for dinner and I come across as being too stuck up and like I don’t need anybody?
I find myself in many work environments simultaneously (another godlike quality I have: I am everywhere) since I left my job back in 2005. Today I found out something nasty a colleague said about me to a friend. It had nothing to do with work matters. It was about me personally. I am not going to go into detail but it was rude, uncalled for and an extremely unprofessional thing to say.
The thing is, even if I am a very annoying person, I work from home. I see most people I work for about once a month. Therefore I am invisible and cannot be seen as threatening even if I was extremely good at my job which I am not. Not because I am stupid, but because work is not my number one priority. Also, although I appear cold and don’t know how to be around people I don’t know very well, this wouldn’t make an impact either, since they seldom see me. I hardly suck up to the boss. To me, the boss is another person I don’t know very well. Therefore a no-go area. I try to do most communication by email. Email is god’s gift.
Which leaves me with the question: Why say something insulting about a person you work with –even from afar- when you know they are going to find out? Especially when you LOOK LIKE A BULLDOG?
That felt good.
February 28th, 2008 at 7:28 pm
I hate work environments especially when women are the majority, or the minority, it doesn’t really matter. I’m guessing the bulldog is a woman - there is no other way. There are many bulldogs out there, no, erase that, bulldogs are actually nice. Those people are tics. yak. They can’t help themselves, they badmouth everything, they’re so insecure with themselves and their work that they need to try and mine everybody else. You’d think you’d be free from that by working from home, but the world is a cruel place
Hope you’re feeling better now. And don’t underestimate your work. I’m sure you do a fine job.
February 28th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
I triple dog dare you to leave dog biscuits on the bulldogs desk. Pardon the puns. ;D
Number 1, nah, that’s too far fetched.
Number 2, this would be the main reason.
Number 3, that sounds like me to a “T”.
February 28th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Woof! Major identification! Maybe this is a Piscean thing? I was annoyingly perfectionist and totally cold to my colleagues when I first started my career because I wanted nothing else but to do a great job. I didn’t care if anyone liked me or not…until I was promoted to management! Then it became all about needing people to truly want to produce for me so the company would do well so my review would be good. Talk about a paradigm shift! Long story short, I learned fast that all people basically want is to be recognized positively, whether it’s a nod and warm smile or an honestly felt compliment. Some would say it’s too bad it took the need for a paycheck to teach me that, but what can I say? Toss ‘em one of papa’s biscuits! (That is such a great idea, btw!!!)
February 28th, 2008 at 9:16 pm
It’s so unfortunate that so many people in this world try to make themselves seem big by trying to make other people feel small.
Was is just this past week, or last week? I’m convinced that something about the moon or the stars has made people a bit crazy.
February 28th, 2008 at 9:26 pm
I love love love you……………….
Small minded people find small minded ways to entertain themselves
is the only comment I have………..
Any one healthy with a wholesome outlook spreads only love and kindness~
I love love love you
Love the CD you made for me
I have almost worn it out~
Kisses
February 28th, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Maybe it was pure jealousy? Let’s say it’s a “she”… although not only girls are bitchy. She can’t deal with the high standards she wants to fulfil herself. Then she compares her work with yours and believes she could do better (than you) if only… she could work at home for example (like you). She thinks that everyboby has the same opinion - that’s why she said it out loud. But it’s only her problem… As long as she concentrates on such thoughts she will never be better than anyone.
uff… that was a long English text for me
February 29th, 2008 at 7:25 am
lol. lol. lol.
i couldn’t help but laugh hard at the end. all the while your ranting about the right and wrong of the situation. but i am sure it felt good. work environments are made up of the same species everywhere. and i am not liked on occasions because i usually am brutally honest.
February 29th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
In a world where women are second best you get “ghetto” behavior in the workplace, people picking on each other because they can’t take on the real injustices in their lives.
I hate work environments, period, and am very glad I’m retired.
February 29th, 2008 at 7:59 pm
To see you at all is to see you too much. I thank my lucky stars every day that I don’t have to work with you. You should get a Burka or something because you are too disgustingly beautiful and everyone hates you for it.
March 1st, 2008 at 12:16 am
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March 1st, 2008 at 11:45 am
People are petty and jealous, especially here of the 36 countries I’ve lived/visited; I assume for ego and self-esteem reasons. Telos.
You’re wonderful!
March 1st, 2008 at 6:45 pm
Devil
it’s true, women can be either horrible or absolutely fantastic and inspiring colleagues. Why am i stuck with the horrible?
Papa
yes! if only i could do that. you always come up with things i’d like to do if i were braver.
missalister
erm, i am not a perfectionist, not at all. i only meant that this is what celebrities claim to be their fault bec. it’s such a glamorous fault.
steph
it was last week but it may have been going on for ages and i only recently found out. Basically, my belief is that all people are nuts and only I, my friends-blogfriends and -some members of- my family are sane.
x
Jeanne
i am going to make you another one for spring. x
thank you
ardent
it would be convenient for me to think she is jealous, so yes, why don’t we go ahead and assume that.
phish
oh i wouldn’t like to work with you then. sometimes brutally honest people are erm, plain brutal
Hattie
i will be glad when i am retired too. i have planned it all out too, with evenings of cocktails with my other retired friends. I hate it when women are like that. At work, I have only got support from women in two cases and i have hundreds of examples of horrid behavior. The same thing goes for mothers. They compete with other mums as if there is a prize. I need a drink! x
cressman
thank you cress. your cheque is in the mail. xx
rudder
that was nice, thanks. how have you been? haven’t heard from you in a long time.
Kat
thank you Kat. until i started travelling i used to think people were like that everywhere. Imagine my surprise when i found out they were not!
March 1st, 2008 at 8:26 pm
Because they are cow orkers?
March 2nd, 2008 at 6:35 am
Just bark at the bitch next time you see her.
xo
March 2nd, 2008 at 9:11 pm
Don’t them them get to you. Every office has one or two people that don’t have anything good to say.
When people that don’t know me start taking mean snips I tend to think I’m on the right path. You probably are too.
March 3rd, 2008 at 8:10 am
I’m glad you’re not a perfectionist!!! It’s such horrid self-torture! =:-0
March 3rd, 2008 at 10:04 pm
I too, struggle with this kind of thing. Why are women such bitches when they’re in groups and in a work environment? It always surprises me.