Today one of my childhood friends is getting married. I am very very happy for her. Like most people, she has met her share of assholes. But unlike most people, her share was something like 95% of the pie.
I don’t hold wedding ceremonies in high esteem. I went through it to have a party and make my parents happy. Our son was our pageboy. Vows should be exchanged every day, even silently. On the way to work, at breakfast, or on Sunday mornings. If you are not willing to do that, don’t bother, really. But I am happy for my friend because she met someone who appreciates her kindness and beauty and respects and loves her. And they should have a party for that. (And I get to wear heels too).
September 9th, 2006 at 11:58 am
“Vows should be exchanged every day, even silently. On the way to work, at breakfast, or on Sunday mornings. If you are not willing to do that, don’t bother, really”
very beautiful and thoughtful view of marriage…
September 9th, 2006 at 2:00 pm
‘But I am happy for my friend because she met someone who appreciates her kindness and beauty and respects and loves her. ‘
I love it when that happens, whether it ends up with a wedding involved or not.
September 9th, 2006 at 3:07 pm
Congrats to your friend and have fun..Heals and all
September 9th, 2006 at 5:24 pm
I agree with holychaos. You’re so beautiful for saying things like that!
missy xx
September 9th, 2006 at 6:06 pm
I agree that unless you’re religious, the weddings are about the party and celebrating your love with the ones around you.
Plus weddings are usually the most boring parties ever…
Still, even this week I had the stupidest wedding fantasy..
September 9th, 2006 at 7:57 pm
hope it is a good party!! (is a pageboy like a ring bearer here?)
dance it up in your heels, sweets!!
September 9th, 2006 at 9:35 pm
Have a wonderful time and congrats to your friend :o)
September 9th, 2006 at 10:38 pm
I think the only reason I went to a wedding last month was for the reception that followed. Catered good food, good wine, and ladies in heels. Now on a serious note, I agree, vows should be exchanged every day, and I think we should fall in love everyday to boot. Boot? Heels? I hope you haven’t gotten me on a shoe fetish.., I look forward to hearing about the wedding, and I’m happy your friend found someone who’ll love her properly.
-Walter
September 10th, 2006 at 12:55 am
Hope those heels got to do some serious dancing.
Congratulations to your friend.
Hugs,
Connie
September 10th, 2006 at 7:40 am
You’re absolutely right. The best part of the wedding is the party after. And damn I look good in heels!
September 10th, 2006 at 10:54 am
Such a lovely piece Chloe.
And yes - truly - you have to
recommit to love every day.
LOVELY piece!!!
September 10th, 2006 at 12:29 pm
Congrats to your friend! (I’m right there with you on the enchanges vows-even if silently or even in actions every day)
September 10th, 2006 at 12:31 pm
I guess yesterday was a day for weddings; I went to one as well…
and I understand your sentiments about your son starting school again tomorrow. Yes, unfortunately, I do. Good luck, dear ones.
September 10th, 2006 at 12:41 pm
Hi! Thought I’d come by and say hello.
September 10th, 2006 at 12:51 pm
I’ve had the expensive all-out ‘best digs’ society wedding. And I’ve also had the ‘Justice of the Peace’ wedding. Plus I’ve attended my nephew’s bar-b-que reception ‘cuz he and his fiance eloped (and I cheered!). Personally - I’m not too big on fancy-dancy man-made rituals and agree with your sentiments wholeheartedly Chloe: marriage is a continual state of the heart - not a 1x ritual.
September 10th, 2006 at 1:15 pm
Did you have a wedding day?
September 10th, 2006 at 2:59 pm
Congratulations to your friend!
Weddings are highly overrated, for many a day just to show how big you are.
But if I wanted one, it would be outside, by the sea.
September 10th, 2006 at 7:38 pm
holychaos
i am not a romantic person. i believe in basic things. like trying and persevering.
kimananda
i know! i love that too. she was radiant and he looked like the luckiest person on earth.
heidi
xx
thank you!
missy
it came out a bit more romantic than i intended, but since you liked it…
devil
really? were you a bride in white? blog about it please.
gina
almost yes. it’s the little guy who
carries your veil along with the flower girls and generally stands next to you to make you look cute.
michelle
thank you, i wish i could post her photo, but she doesn’t know about the blog, so i don’t have permission!
Walter
you are so sweet. i don’t fall in love every day. i don’t know if it is possible. and if it was, i wouldn’t be able to do anything else.
i’d rather be honest about things like that so that unmarried people don’t think it’s all rosy. but i make an effort.
shoe fetish, hm, not a bad fetish!
Connie
no they didn’t poor heels. the music was greek folk music mostly and i don’t know how to dance these things. Hugs xxx
Phil
Tom Jones looks good in heels too. Men in heels, yay!
sophie
there is no choice than this is there? otherwise, you give up on life.
etchen
oh yes, what happened to good old actions? like GIFTS!
Cathy
good luck to their teachers!
hehe.
did you dance at the wedding?
sky
hello, hello! come back soon
E.C
i understand the party and the need to validate a union (if you are religious), but i don’t understand when people view these things as symbols. long dresses and 200 people don’t symbolize anything!
Finn
you mean, if i had a wedding day personally? as a bride?
yes i had one, 3 years ago. i danced till i dropped, then my son lost his shoe and i was looking for it under the tables in my wedding dress.
erikku
then you would have loved this, it was by the sea, both the ceremony and the reception.
September 17th, 2006 at 1:28 pm
So you were living in sin with your husband before you got married? Just kidding. I admire your attitude about marriage. That’s the thing someone said at the last wedding I went to too: that they take work. Considering the thought and attention you put into it however, your husband must be a very lucky man.