See me happy? It’s because I found my camera. Which I had lost in the taxi yesterday. But the taxi driver brought it to me. Am I ever going to say mean things about taxi drivers again? I am afraid so. But I will always add "except from the nice one who gave me back my camera." Joe, don’t tell anyone! I lost it and found it and kept it a secret.Because there is this totally unfounded rumour going around in this house about me, that I am absent minded and I am not to be trusted with valuable items.
But now, I have a dilemma for you to solve: There is this woman that has been looking for a proper job for about a year. Eventually, she lost hope and has been feeling disgusted with the way things work in her profession. She has reached a point where she wants to do something of her own, start her own business. And she has been researching and talking and planning. And she is very excited about this new prospect and wants to devote herself to it. But now, people called her from her old job (the good people) and there is an opening there. Except, this job is not what she wants. Not at all. And the environment there is negatively charged. Bad vibes. But it is a job, it is steady and in a big big company. She can’t do both. What should she do, this woman I am talking about?
May 25th, 2006 at 8:08 am
Chloe;
I am so happy for you that you got your camera back; it would have been awful to be without it. I know.
The job. I have a feeling that you ahve answered your own question with the comment about the bad vibes. But it is a hard thing to turn down a steady and secure job and all the practicalities that go along with that. Is it possible to give it a go there and keep the other business option on the back-burner? In other words, have your cake and eat it too?…If not, I think you should go the business route.
XOXOXOXOXO
May 25th, 2006 at 8:10 am
It’s good you’ve found the camera, the taxi driver could have kept it..
About the job. No matter how much you love doing something for your own, I’ll go for the bad vibes job, because having a salary is better than asking for money
May 25th, 2006 at 8:24 am
I think it all depends upon how financially stable the nice lady is. If she is in a position to follow her dream and has planned for all possibilities then she should do what she wants. If she isnt in that position it may be wiser to save a little working for a company and follow her ambitions in the future. It also depends upon what the pretty ladies family think is best.
May 25th, 2006 at 8:31 am
Through personal experience, I will always say “once you’ve gone, never go back”. Go for the new challenge Chloe !!!!
May 25th, 2006 at 8:37 am
hey once I left my cell phone in the rental car and had to go back and get it. The same car that I lost the keys to on the front lawn and it took us three hours to locate.
I think this lady should exam if money is higher on the list right now then happiness.
From my own experiance I worked for 6 years at a location that made me miserible because the money was go great.
Now I also have been unemployed so long that it looks like I’ll be taking any job that comes my way.
May 25th, 2006 at 9:40 am
you are so pretty chloe!!
as far as advice goes, this is what you said…
“Except, this job is not what she wants. Not at all. And the environment there is negatively charged. Bad vibes”
there is your answer. tell this woman to go for it and dont look back. we are all in a season of change, and although scary, i say try it!! let us know what “she” decides, huh?
May 25th, 2006 at 9:48 am
you look like a fairy in this
picture - i love fairies..
there is a similar rumor in
my household…who starts such
ugly things…?
at the end of our days it is the
things we did not do that will
fill us with regret…
tell her if she is creative and
personable she will succeed in
her own business.
smiles!!! happy happy day!!
May 25th, 2006 at 9:49 am
Chloe..First off Congrats with the camera
And that is a great photo of you with your smile 
Things are meant for a reason..What’s ever in your heart to make u happy doing what ” this person” does …is what counts.
May 25th, 2006 at 10:06 am
Concerning the Job offer with the bad vibes I say “pass”. There’s more to life than a steady paycheck, and a steady paycheck isn’t worth unnecessary grief. If the woman in question has a chance of doing something she likes and getting paid for it she may not even see what she’s doing as a job. I say take the chance and go for her own business.
Great you have your camera back and.., THREE CHEERS FOR THE HONEST TAXI DRIVER!!!
May 25th, 2006 at 10:59 am
It depends entirely on how much is at risk. If taking the fun option means minor hardship I would do it. Putting up with a sporadic income is worth it - but if, and only if, it doesn’t generate major risks. I think most people value happiness when it is practical.
May 25th, 2006 at 11:02 am
Lovely photo of you
I agree with Steve, but also think that “can’t” is a bad word in terms of the lady being able to do both things…unless there is a significant geographical issue. I know a lot of people who work the day jobs to help make the real dream happen, and it’s easier to put up with not-so-great stuff at the day job when it brings one closer and closer to the escape hatch. I wish the lady all the luck in the world!
May 25th, 2006 at 12:05 pm
BTW Im loving that happy smiley face. Just revisited for a second look
May 25th, 2006 at 12:09 pm
Don’t look back
May 25th, 2006 at 12:32 pm
As for the camera, I grew up with the nickname The Absent Minded Professor so I can relate.
With the job situation, I’m sure your friend already knows a steady paycheck is a nice thing to have.
May 25th, 2006 at 1:58 pm
Cathy
i know! i was desperate. and i didn’t know what to tell M who has been going on and on about me being in my own world. I would have to validate his opinion, and that would cost me much more than the camera!
About the job: I am going to go see them. I just don’t want to be in that poisonous environment.
Marina
i am not asking anybody for money. oh, just EU funds, but i am entitled to them.
Steve
let me tell you Steve, this lady is not stable at all, on any level.
I am going to tell her you called her pretty though.
Ben
i agree Ben. i am very intuitive and deep down i always know what to do. Still, i needed your opinions. I value them immensely and i know you never give them lightly.
Day
i have been through that phase. I mean the “i’ll take any job” phase. I might go back to it. At this moment i am fearless. maybe it’s the summer. You know aesop’s fable about the ant and the cicada? That’s me (the cicada)
Gina
she decided to go see them so she can later validate her initial reaction, which was not to work there.
Maddy
when your own son (mine) has invited a friend over and tells you “mum, should i clean my room before he comes?” instead of you telling him, there is a reason why these rumours start. xxxx
Heidi
true! but what makes me happy? money make me happy, that’s for sure. I mean the things i can do with it. Creating things makes me happy too. I just want to combine the two.
Hugs xxxx
p.s do you still have problems with loading the page? maybe it’s the Hive?
Duncan
this woman is nuts Duncan. I posted this so i could show her the opinions of sane people. We’ll see. Who knows? She might wake up tomorrow and feel the need to be an astronaut.
Toerson
there is some hardship involved when you decide to do something on your own. Sometimes there’s a lot of hardship too.
It’s so difficult Toerson. I wish i could go back to kindergarden and not have to worry about what i am going to be when i grow up.
Stephanie
yes, can’t is a bad work.
maybe she can find a way around these two different jobs. The problems are two: time (she has a kid, she can’t work 16 hours a day)and the fact that the new opening has to do with writing and broadcasting news on the radio. She will have to work crazy hours, holidays, weekends. It’s not 9-5.
zona
i won’t, just a peek
cool cat
hehe, she knows it too well
May 25th, 2006 at 2:20 pm
I think part of the ambivalence your young bright friend faces maybe actually latent exhilaration. I also suspect your friend could return to the dark caves of corporate culture if this mad ambition doesn’t play out in a favorable way.
May 25th, 2006 at 3:07 pm
Hi Chloe,
I saw a few of the things you tagged on the Style Hive and to follow your lead and tag them too. Cute stuff you found! Thanks for sharing.
May 25th, 2006 at 3:12 pm
Phew, good thing you found your camera. Please don’t take any more summery pictures though
Re the job thing. I would go for the new, going back to old and bad will never be as secure as it may seem. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll feel twice as bad about it. Nothing like a fresh start too. Nothing ventured, nothing gained etc.
Good luck
xxx
May 25th, 2006 at 3:33 pm
glad you found your camera! i don’t think we could live without your camera either!
May 25th, 2006 at 5:20 pm
Cab drivers are a constant in your life - the good and the bad moments, there they are…
If the woman is excited about the new project, then maybe she should risk it and leave the past behind. Sometimes it’s no good to go back, especially when that place is badly charged…But I could be wrong.
May 25th, 2006 at 5:38 pm
That’s a tough call…You need money in order to make ends meet. You can’t do that, you can’t do anything.
I know people that keep a steady job to keep afloat while working on their business ventures very part time.
May 25th, 2006 at 5:44 pm
I just lost my mobile then got it back from some teenager who’d found it and pressed “home”
As you know I’ll be starting in my new job Thursday - where I’ve worked before too (ten years ago). I think going back will be excellent. No bad vibes though — so if there’s a chance “this woman” will get by financially by doing her own thing, it may be worth a while of uncertainty.
If “she” needs a steady income now, this really isn’t a question, is it?
May 25th, 2006 at 6:15 pm
- one vote for your old job
- for the lost and found camera case…you are not only always absent minded but you didn’t think as a woman, you’d a great chance to buy the new model you wanted so much.
Cheers!
May 25th, 2006 at 6:35 pm
Hmmm…looking for a proper job for a long time…feeling disgusted with the way things work in this profession…wants to do something of her own…now clearly this woman is me…only I haven’t been offered any work recently!
This is a hard call. I would say, if there’s enough money around so that the job isn’t desparately needed, then don’t do it. But if the money from the job would make things easier, and if this woman could do her own thing while working for a while at the old job, then it is the sensible option, isn’t it? But then again, I would like more details…why did the woman leave the job to begin with? Is there the chance that the negative things have eased up a bit since then?
May 25th, 2006 at 7:06 pm
Wow that was just too close! I can’t live without your pictures. Thank you Mr. Cab man.
If you think that you will still be able to smile like this picture you have posted after taking that old job back…then I guess you should consider it.
I just want you to be happy.
Hugs,
Connie
May 26th, 2006 at 12:19 am
go with your dreams! having a job that you are unhappy with is not worth keeping. take a risk and go for it! life is too short to life with “what if’s” all the time. good luck in whatever u decide…er i mean, this woman.
May 26th, 2006 at 12:20 am
oh! yes, i almost forgot- what a pretty pic!
May 26th, 2006 at 4:03 am
Thank you all for your advice and thoughts. To make things clear: this isn’t my old job. my old job was great. This is a new job but at the old place. I have decided to go see them and see what they want from me exactly.
May 26th, 2006 at 8:28 am
Glad you got the camera back, Chloe. What a terrible thing it is to lose something. What luck it was returned.
About the job … go with your gut feeling, do what feels right for you. I think you know the right answer.
Take care, my friend … Meow xx
May 26th, 2006 at 10:46 am
god, you look so pretty
(lol… i just called you a god… a greek goddess!)
May 26th, 2006 at 11:43 am
thats one of the loveliest pictures I’ve ever seen!!!
M. has to be sooooo lucky!
May 26th, 2006 at 2:27 pm
her own work, of course!
May 26th, 2006 at 8:22 pm
I don’t know that I’m the person to give this woman advice on this issue. You should never take a job with bad vibes but often just having a job makes your more capable to be employable and makes you feel better about yourself. I think perhaps she should work it for a bit and keep thinking about her own business until she has that compelling “aha!” moment and decides to go for the plunge. As for you that is a gorgeous picture! Thank goodness for you finding your camera!
May 26th, 2006 at 9:37 pm
you can not succeed unless you are willing to fail.
how’s the book coming along?
May 26th, 2006 at 9:56 pm
chloeeee .. what a lovely picture .. u have a great smile ..
hmmm @ they are not trusting you with valuable items .. hmmm .. what do you think? are you or are you not?
she should take that job .. work for … aaaaa .. 6 months .. save some money .. quit and put that money towards her business ..
yes ofcourse she will have a bad environment in the beginning .. but she is doing it for the life ahead .. for the good times ahead .. that’s all what she needs to think. Nothing comes easy .. if she does that .. she will have some money and sooo sooo much devotion to start the business she planned.
what field is she in?
And also if it’s a big big company .. it will give her credit i.e. the person who started this business worked for a big big company .. which will be a good thing to the outside world.
May 26th, 2006 at 11:47 pm
Take the job for a while, save some money, then start the business, that’s what I reckon.
Do what you have good feelings about.
It’s such a wonderful feeling when someone returns something you lost.
I’m glad you got it back!
June 3rd, 2006 at 3:12 pm
I’m pretty sure this woman that you’re talking about has answered her own dilemma, simply by reading your words. A place with bad vibes but good people doing a job she doesn’t really want to do anyhow… balanced against something that she is excited about, something that makes her happy, and something with some potential in it.
I’m also preety sure this woman you are talking about has solved her dilemma by now too, without reading this.
And I think Nabeel made a good suggestion to this woman you are talking about, too.